Girl friend issue. Advice would be much appreciated.

I'm dating this girl %26amp; she's great. She treats me really well and she is a really nice girl. The problem is she is completely %26amp; uterly broke. She has a job (not a real good one), but she just can't pay her bills. Every time we hang out, all we talk about is how she can't pay her bills %26amp; i obviously have to pay for everything. I'm in a ok financial position and I've 'loaned' her hundreds of dollars (which i doubt she'll ever be able to pay back) but I can't afford to keep giving her money like this and I don't see her getting in a better financial position anytime soon. I feel bad for her %26amp; she really isn't a gold digger, she just has no money. I don't know what to do. Sometimes I think I can't deal w/ this anymore %26amp; want to break up w/ her. But I don't know what would happen to her %26amp; I'd feel like a total A**-H*** for breaking up w/ her just cause she's broke, She'd be totally crushed too. Any advice/input would be great. Thank you.Girl friend issue. Advice would be much appreciated.
Well, you have to decide what to do. You and jeep being her ATM or tellher you can't keep loaning her money. Sooner or later her money problems will put on her the same path as she is. Broke. So, you decide. Good luck..Girl friend issue. Advice would be much appreciated.
Maybe you can suggest her getting some credit/financial counseling. She needs to live within her means and not add any new purchase to her increasing debt. I wouldn't loan her any more money (seriously) until she talked to a credit counselor. Loaning her money won't help her she needs to get to the root of her problem with spending money otherwise she'll be bankrupt. A true friend and boyfriend would be honest with her no matter what. She may not like it but it will help her own in the long run.
I have had this issue before (and still) with many friends and have had to deal with it too. I know how hard it can be , but..... if you really do love her then this is what you have to do. you have to realize that she LOVES you, which is more valuable than any amount of money, please trust me for I have made the mistake of taking money over people before and regret it every single day! Do what you believe to be right.
i think you should really have a sit down and talk to her about this serious issue because being broke can lead to serious problems





has she been to college or can she afford it if she has education there shouldnt be a problem with having a decent occupation but just let her get out what she needs to say and you tell her that there needs to be a change suggest getting a second job it could be very helpful!
well this is a problem; because you love her but she is costing you a lot of money intentionally. i say just try to work things out like help her find a good job and stuff, and if things don't work out i guess you would have to consider breakup.
Mr. Appreciative:





Sounds as if you are a real 'savior'--wow, where would she be had it not been for the couple of hundreds you are sharing in a public forum that you have given her.





Just wondering, when was the last time you read current events? We are head on in a recession....which ultimately one day in the near future might see you really needing to ';ask'; for that money back. Be careful. Being a ';friend'; to someone means that the secrets they confide in you should be held safe. If you are looking for someone a little more financially secure, then it's up to YOU to seek that out as a pre-requisite for dating. Taking her out to eat, if your idea, is not a reflection on her, it only becomes an issue if she constantly asks to go out.





Bottom line is that it sounds that you have already =+ - her up, if this is true, you owe it to yourself to first admit the way it churns your stomach to be in the company of a woman who fiscally does not suit you, but you also have a responsibility as an adult to tell her that this is not what you envisioned when you began the process of getting to know her.





Do not extend anymore financial help/support to her--suggest to her that she may need to hit a clothing store or boutique for a part-time job, and yes,,,,that will cut down on your time with her and yes she will be too exhausted sometimes to see you but atleast the accountability falls back on her. Begin to tell that you ';like'; her but you are mostly attracted to women who are women first, assertive, and goal oriented. Voila! You have not called her 'broke' or misused your words to even mention money. And begin to back off and look for someone a little more to your financial ';liking';





All the best!
If this truly a true situation I know how it feels. My bf is really just broke ad at the moment out of job. He has two kids and I gave his kids their daily snacks of biscuits. And I spend for everything..sometimes it kind of suffocating. so, today I am helping him to find work and encouraging him to really look for a good pay. If he is stable already I would really broke up with him for reasons I want to keep private.


It is like the two of you being on a boat in the middle of the sea without any paddle, and if you broke up with her it looks like you jump out unto another boat with out a paddle and leave her in the middle without any means of getting back to shore. what if you are on the same situation with her how would you feel? But again it is not our RESPONSIBILITY TO PAY BILLS RIGHT? so our decision would really show what stuff we are made off.