My girlfirend wants to be engaged by 2/14/09..... we started dating last month... advice please?

She is 33 i am 30. Things are great with us so far but we have only been dating for just over a month. Any advice would be helpful.My girlfirend wants to be engaged by 2/14/09..... we started dating last month... advice please?
It appears that you're not comfortable with this idea. One person can't dictate when both people will be ready to commit to each other. If you're not sure then you need to put it out there right now. My girlfirend wants to be engaged by 2/14/09..... we started dating last month... advice please?
She sounds like someone who is more focused on her romantic fantasy - a ring next Valentine's Day - than finding the right person and taking the time to build a relationship. I would find this very troubling.





There's nothing wrong with a woman wanting marriage, nor deciding that she will only date someone for a certain length of time with becoming engaged (like maybe a year), but to say that to a man she has been dating one month frankly sounds a little wacko.





Does it seem like she really likes YOU and understands who you are? Or does it seem like she is relating to you as the embodiment of some sort of fantasy. Beware of the latter, because when you turn out to be a real person she won't like it.





You might just want to wish her luck with her engagement plans and move on. That's a lot of pressure to put on a new relationship.
I wonder if it is you that she wants or is it a family?





Watch to see if her eyes light up for you or for the house, picket fence and children that she hopes you bring to her. Be extra careful if she hints she will quit working once she has a ring secured.





I would be very careful. Who wants to live their whole life fulfilling a role?





A banquet coordinator at a ritzy restaurant told me some girls book their wedding dates before they even find the unsuspecting groom. YIKES!
O god that's terrible





Sounds like she's more concerned with filling a position than who's filling it.





I smell desperation!





I had a friend who did this to her boyfriend. He moved to Texas without her knowing and then called her and broke it off. I think he felt like he was being pressured into marriage instead of being able to want marriage with her, so he just ran.





Good Luck with that one. Scary situation!
You should be honest with her. Tell her if you think things are going well, but if you don't feel comfortable with a time limit (which you shouldn't put a time limit on it).





She sounds kind of pushy. I would be concerned if she is pushy about this, she might be pushy about other things in the future as well.
Yes,





Run Forest Run





Your girlfriend is in love with her plan and she is working on making you fit into it





One month of dating is wayyyyyyy to soon for anyone to decide that the marriage will take place in 4 months or less-





Didn't know you had an expiration date, did ya? ;%26gt;
She is telling you to start saving up for the ring haha. So direct





But seriously this is the type of girl who feels she's getting older fast and doesn't want to waste her time. It's fair though, she gave you the heads up





Now decide if you both want the same things
A month dating is waaaaaay too soon to say something like that. It's different if you're dating a guy for a year and what to have the ';where is this relationship headed?'; talk. I would take things really, really slowly with her, if you want to continue dating her at all.
UMMMM, I believe this should be a big warning sign to you. It is obvious that she just wants to get married. You have to remember that you are part of this relationship too, not just her. It is ok to tell her that you are not ready to get engaged or married.
I suggest you to tell her to wait... If she loves you she'll wait... you need to get to know her the same for her... I know being in love makes people do crazy stuff... but a relationship is not right for only a month than marriage... she'll have to wait... Good luck.
She is more concerned with a date and you than dating to get to knowing you enough to get engaged to marry you. She sounds like a hopeless romantic judging by the date. Don't rush things.
So your buying a ring by Valentine's Day. You don't sound on board with this idea.
Run? Witness protection program? otherwise no pressure.
Sounds like she says things out loud that she should only be thinking. Yikes.
She has plans for you. Make sure it is your plan too.
Don't get engaged to her if you aren't ready, simple as that. Tell her of your intentions so that she is clear about them. Never let anyone pressure you into something you aren't ready for.
She has issues...





Don't continue with this unless you enjoy people with issues. A lot.
DTB








Dump That Bi tch!!!
RUN! NOW!!
Why are you with her?
of course not, you just met, this is your life.
Ask this question next year if you are still dating her. What is the rush? You hardly know her!.
run
she sounds a bit crazy...it sounds like she's determined and she'll settle for anyone, that being you.
I think that you should see what happens but it is really a little too soon to be booking wedding venues.





She is putting some serious pressure on a new relationship.
so next time she says it, say to her, good luck with that


that will shut her up


she has no right to force this on you
Tick tock. Does she love you or the idea of being engaged?
well she is jumping the gun.This should be your descion and whatever date or year you are ready is when it should be.you have only been Dating a month,It might not last.
that's kinda weird..you shouldn't put a time limit on getting engaged. i don't think you 2 have been together long enough for that...