I do want a baby but not yet just need some advice really....
How old was you when you first settled down and had children! and are you glad you did it at that age? also have you got any advice for me ...
Thank you all xx
What age was you when you settled down and had children any advice for me plz?
i met my hubb at 26.
moved in at 32.
had r first babe at 32.
age dont matter its how you feel.
some people r made for each other b it 19 or 29.
What age was you when you settled down and had children any advice for me plz?
I was 25 when my daughter was born. Her father and I had been together since we were 18, and had married 18 months before she was born. Our son followed 3 1/2 years later.
We took a lot of stick for starting our family so soon, but felt that it was the right thing to do as we had the energy to put into a family AND by the time the kids had grown up and started wanting to do their own thing we would still be young enough to enjoy our lives together too.
I think the important thing is to start when you are both happy to do so - regardless of what other people may think or say it's your life! Also, you hear a lot of people saying ';we'll start a family when we can afford it'; - you can't budget for children!
I wish you both the very best of luck xx
I met my bf in january, we were living togethr by march and i fell pregnant in june, I was 16 (17 when i had him) at the time which here in Australia is the consenting age.
We stayed together, got a better house and car and had our 2nd child a month before i turned 19, then we got engaged and had our 3rd baby 5 months ago..I just turned 22 and we will have been together for 6 years in january =D I know i was young but i don't regret it one bit, I now have 3 beautiful little munchkins that i 鈾?to death!
I started dating my current spouse when I was 18, but didn't get married until I was 25 and didn't have kids until we were both 29. I'm very glad we timed it the way we did. Because we did it that way, we had time to finish school (and grad school), get good work experience, do some traveling, and save enough money so that we could buy a house and afford our kids. After having been together more than a decade, we were also sure we were a stable couple and really ready to raise kids together. And it certainly worked out for us. We now have four kids, a great house, and have been married almost 14 years.
Well, I鈥檓 26 now and my fiance and I have been ttc for the last 8 months. Wer have been together 5 years though, lived together for 3 and a half of those and we got our 1st mortgage a year ago. I think you moving in with your bf is great but seriously, give it 2 years of living together before you start thinking about kids. I was with my ex for nearly 3 years (we split when I was 21) and i'm just thankful we never had any kids. You find a lot more out about a person when you live with them.
I had my babes at 18, knew my partner for almost 6 years and it didnt work, it happens, anyhoo.
I would suggest what things are important to you?
Marriage, a home of your own, good jobs for the both of you, a car for both of you, be able to afford a child?
All these things i mentioned above is a pretty good start up point, if you can reach all these goals then go for it.
Just know that having a child is a luxury!
I settled down and started having my children young. I have four wonderful little rascals now. I would not trade them for anything in the world. But my advice to you is wait a couple years at least you guys are just getting you own place together just enjoy each other for a while. Your only 19 and 20 enjoy going out traveling and spending time with just each other till your at least twenty five.
met my now wife when i was 17,moved in together 19,married 22,1st child at 24, 2nd child at 31!
there's pros and cons for both arguments and it really depends on the individual.some would say u miss out on fun when you're young,but at 24 i'd sure had my fair share of fun,and now thinking that when my youngest hits her teens and they start getting more independant,doing more with they're friends than parents i'll only be early forties,so wife and i will start getting more and more us time from then on till they eventually leave home then the worlds our oyster for many more years to come.hope u make the decision that's correct for you!!
I started dating my hubby when I was 18, he was 19. We got married when I was 26 and had our first baby when I was 28. I'm glad we waited because we had so much time for just us. Then when we found out we were pregnant it wasn't a huge shock for us. We had had time to experience things together...now we have an almost 8 month old daughter and are experiencing so many more things as a family!
Everyone is different when they want kids or are stable enough to have them. I had my daughter at 22 my partner was 23 we have been together for nearly 7 years. She was not planned but i wouldn't change my life for anything in the world. One thing i find hard is we don't have our own house (which i wish we did but in time we will save and buy our own) and money is a big thing.. that babies always needs stuff!
I was engaged at 21. Thank god it didn't happen - I'd have been divorced within months. You'll change beyond all recognition in your 20s and my advice is not to rush it. I eventually married (someone else) at 29 and had my children when I was 31 and 32. We've now been married 12 years and I've not one single regret.
hey honey, i honestly would wait. think about it. you are a child for such a short time, then you get your young years (20's) after that it is adult hood. 30,40,50,60 + you are an adult seems like way longer than a young woman, so i would suck up all the youngness, energy while you have it. i am not saying you are not an adult you just have so much time being older. i married at 27. i am glad i waited. enjoy life, travel if you can save lots of money and get married, take a college course, what ever you want. then when its time start having kids. anyway that is my advise to you. i am 40 now and have 4 children we are adopting and i have had them for 3 years. i think 40 may be a bit old for starting to have kids. but i am doing it. :)
i plan on waiting till im around 30. im 23 now and many of me friends have had kids in the past few years. all they do now is complain about how they cant do anything fun and how they never have enough money. im waiting till ive been married for a handful of years, have established my career, and have a few thousand dollars in savings.
I had a child at 16 but thiis wasn't planned.
At 20 I settled down, got engaged and we're expecting our first child together in 2 weeks.
I think all I can say is only you know when it feels right and when you want to have kids. When it's right good luck, you will love them!
I got married at 18 many moons ago, and had my first child when I was 23. Looking back now 18 was too young, and if I had my time again, I would travel, and do all the things that you can't do when you have a family.
When you have kids you are allways spending out for them.
I moved in with my then 23 yr old partner at 17, and fell pregnant, had the baby at 18, we were both working full time. Had my second child at 19, and chucked him out 3 months later.
Now I'm with my baby's daddy and Im 20 on Sunday. It was far, far, faaaar too early.
I married at 16(did not have to) and I had 5 children by the time I was 21.I love all my children but I was too young to get married.You loose out on a lot of things and can't do it over.Be financially and mentally ready.Children cost more money now than then.I wish you both luck.
I was 17 when I met my now Husband. Moved in with him at 19 (250 miles away from home, now live in Edinburgh) Had my beautiful little girl almost 2 years ago. Got married 15 Weeks ago, and I'm now 24. I wouldnt change anything for the world.
I got with my partner when i was 19 we lived together three years before deciding on a family, i would say live with each other for a while first they always say you never really know someone until you have lived with them ..and its very true x
I got married and had my first at 19...He wasn't planned, but I couldn't have loved being pregnant or love him anymore if I planned it for 1000 years!!! Looking back, I was young, I'm divorced now, but I wouldn't change it for anything!!
i met my hubby when we wer 17 and we had our first child at 19 (quick i know) but we have been together for nearly 11 years now and have 4 children and still happy.
just wait untill you are both ready!
We met at 18, got married at 20 had our first at 22, second at 25 and third is due in January (I'll be 26)
Couldn't be happier with my hubby and girls :)
I met my husband when I was 23, we moved in together when I was 24, got married when I was 25 and now expecting our first child, due in June 2009 when I will be 26! Phew, a busy few years!
As for the advice - when I was 19 I had been with my ex for 2 and a half years like you and we were planning to move in together. In the end we were together for 6 and a half years but we never did move in and it all fell apart. At the time I was devastated but looking back I am so glad because now that I ma older I can see that I was far too young to be that commited and settled. I used to hate being told by other people we were too young for our big plans because I felt so grown up! It's only now that I can look back and say, ';yep, they were all right!'; So think very carefully. You may love your boyfriend very much and be financially ready for the commitment of a home together. But 19 is still young, despite how much you may dislike hearing it... with age comes wisdom!
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